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Posted at December 31, 1969, 6:00 pm: Thanks Annie, but am still unsure how to back off. Quote: Originally Posted by Aniko Joel...why would you talk her out of going to France for six months? Sounds like a terrific opportunity for her to gain some life experience. Is she going as a school intership or work related or a family holiday? She wants to try work over there, but it's more of an escape I reckon. The way she has talked previously about how sick of uni she felt and how it depressed her makes me think that. I haven't so much been talking her out of it (altho I implied I was), what i've been doing is telling her how crap it would be if she left and we've all been having heaps of fun lately so it really would be. Quote: Originally Posted by Aniko By the way...how friendly are you two? You say you've been sending her the wrong signals...are you talking holding hands and cuddling or something more than that? Just wondering, because it would be easier to get back to being 'just friends' if things haven't gone too far. No holding hands or cuddling, but other more subtle things like we'll always hug good bye but she won't hug anyone else. Then we'll always end up sitting together, having deep conversations together and it's always me she seems to be with..........as I write this out it doesn't seem that bad but you know when you just get a feeling that a friendship is becoming too close, well that's what it's like. I totally agree about the timing bit. That's my whole point, now isn't the right time for her. But when you said Quote: Originally Posted by Aniko If you're ready to back off now just because she seems needy and emotional, she's not "the one" (at least right now). Or, maybe it's just the timing and it all seems too soon and you're getting a little scared?Anyway...my point is...you'll know it when you love that person warts and all...and won't run from them. It makes me think you don't understand or perhaps I've been unclear. I'm not scared at all. It's not really too soon either. She is just really vulnerable at the moment. There's hints of depression and fear in the way she talks and I don't want to just be her emotional crutch (i'd describe it more intensely than needy and emotional). I can see her vulnerability at the moment and just because I like her doesn't mean I can take advantage of that. She just needs good friends, not boys who somehow keep sending mixed messages. It's the messages I want to fix. How can I spend less time around her when we go out? How can i stop her calling me at night? How can I get her to open up to her friends that are girls instead of me? These are all impossible questions in my mind so I am quietly hoping you guys have some idea. Original of the message was taken from http://www.movieforums.com/community/ Previous Post: Joel. Next Post: Quote: Originally Posted by SpoOkY Thanks Ann... |